I don’t know about you, but every time I board a plane, I secretly hope in the back of my mind that a cute guy will sit down next to me. It’s silly, but movies have conditioned us to believe that these sorts of meet cutes do occur. And they do lead to happiness and marriage. Wouldn’t it be romantic to walk by the Eiffel Tower and immediately have a Frenchmen sweep you off your feet? Now maybe it’s just me, but I don’t think so.
I think all girls long for a little carefree vacation romance. It’s a time when you can finally kick back and completely focus on what makes you happy…there are no deadlines, no boss breathing down your neck, no responsibilities. It is the perfect time to indulge in everything that makes you feel good—food, culture, and maybe even love.
But there are a few things to remember when hoping to find vacation romance…
First of all, arrive at your destination with an open mind. Never have expectations, because expectations tend to lead to disappointment. But be optimistic and open to whatever comes your way. Be aware of your surroundings and prepared to have fun should opportunity come your way!
Meet people! Sure, you may have come with a group of girlfriends and you don’t NEED a man to have fun. But if one should come knocking at your door, at least hear him out. Be friendly and make new friends, you never know what connections you’ll make sunbathing on the beach or taking a Thai cooking class in Chiang Mai. Maybe he came with a group of friends too, and maybe his friend Kevin is perfect for your friend Amy! Forming one big group can be a really fun way to keep things low key and feel less pressured.
Don’t think too much and just have fun. I know as girls we tend to want to overthink everything. But this is vacation, so give your mind a break too. Don’t worry about what will happen when the week ends. Just live in the moment and have a good time. If it is fun, then it’s all good (just make sure to use protection please if things are headed that way J) Coming home with a disease would not be fun!
However, do prepare yourself to say goodbye. It may be forever, or it may not be. Who knows. But either way, you’ve both had a good time and you’ve made memories together. He has given you a great story to come home and tell your friends—and who doesn’t want to come home with a vacation romance tale?!
When you get home, accept that it likely won’t last. Even if you made promises to each other to write and visit, it might not happen. Sorry to be realistic but even under the best intentions, long distance is hard. Really hard. But as Dr. Seuss said, don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. If you had a good time, got a great story, maybe learned something about yourself, it is worth it.
But on the off chance that your fluke encounter does lead to something more permanent and lasting, then you have certainly won the jackpot. So ALWAYS keep an open mind when travelling, you never know!